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The Compassionate Tug-of-War: Strategies for Calming an Angry Child

Have you ever felt like you were in the centre of a cyclone, surrounded by your child's rage and about to lose your cool? You have company. Keeping your own emotional composure while calming your child's is a delicate balancing act. Let's look at various tactics that can make calm winds out of these storms. Every child's tantrums are different because every child is different. But no matter what the circumstances, all parents want to be there for their kids and help them weather the emotional storm. Such shifts in mood, though, can be unsettling. Let’s simplify the procedure into more digestible chunks.


1. Find Your Zen Side


Take a deep breath and compose yourself before rushing in to calm your child's rage. Your peace of mind can be a haven for your child during times of emotional turmoil. Relaxing techniques include taking a few deep breaths, practicing mindfulness, or simply just taking a short break. By learning to control your own stress, you may be a role model for your child.


2. A Sincere Thank You


Your child's emotions are valid and should not be discounted or ignored. Recognising their feelings will make them feel less alone. Statements like "I can see you're really angry about this" can be very effective. Surprisingly, this can help them let go of some of the pent-up rage they may be feeling.


3. Use Distraction to Your Advantage


A diversion at the right time can change the game. Make a suggestion for a new pastime, a favorite game, or an interesting activity that will keep them occupied. Tensions can be eased by taking a break in an unfamiliar setting, such as by going for a short walk outside.


4. Serve as a Guidepost


Long pieces of advise can be ineffective when your youngster is drowning in anger. Instead, utilise short, direct sentences and an even tone. Serve as a beacon to help them find their way back to safety.



5. A Healer's Hands


When words fail, a gentle touch or embrace can convey your presence and support. It's a comforting show of care that shows you understand their pain and want to help them find some peace.


6. Cultivate Emotional Literacy:


When the dust settles, it's time to talk about what's really important. Don't assign blame or shame; just talk about what happened. Give them the words they need to adequately convey their emotions. Give them examples of how their favorite fictional characters in books or on TV deal with difficult emotions.


It may seem like an impossible endeavour to calm down an angry toddler. You can help someone find their way through their feelings if you have the patience, empathy, and these tools at your disposal. Keep in mind that if these episodes become severe or regular, it is acceptable to seek professional assistance.

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